Hi Bebe - this is a late response as today is Monday and your date was Sunday but I wanted to reply to you! I think it is very important not to avoid situations that may be considered stressful - easier said than done I know! I have been with my boyfriend for three years now and he has been a great support, my rock! This date may be the start of something good - go with it!



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Jo



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Hi Everyone,



I've just started getting my life back on track again. I'm seem to have got myself into a comfortable and predicatable daily routnie that i'm happy with. However I went out the other night and met a guy ( I've known him for a while) we get on really well and I really like him and I know he feels the same. Were going out on sunday and i'm seeing him tonight and I know it could be the start of something really good..



The only problem is, is that it terrfiys me. Not only has it been a really long time since I've been out on a date and liked someone this much, its causing me bugger loads of anxiety as I don't know whats gonna happen between us and I don't wanna get hurt. However I don't wanna do the easy thing and avoid the situation because yet again my ocd is stopping me from doing something I wanna do..



I went and saw my cognitive therapist yesteray to discuss new ways of thinking about the situation which helped. He says its the fear of the uncertain which is making me feel this way, but I have to accept life is uncertian. I can't control everything.. But I'm realy unsure what to do. My sleeps been disturbed, my appettie as gone down and i'm feeling quite anxious.



If you have any advice then I would be really appreciative..



A very confused bebe xxx